1.,Illness and dying is not like the movies .
2.,Denial Of being ill.
3., Being sick strips ones right of pride .
For me this insight was so true.In away I think we all wish death and illness was as easy as it is in the movies. That we still even in the end hold on to our beauty anbd essence. That are dignity isnt lost in the illness.But the truth is when we get sick theirs are no sets, no lights, nobody screaming out action. The actors cast in these roles are all to real and the emotions never end with a scene.Illness and eventual death are all to long.People can be sick like Eric for years. Never knowing that those days in a busling coffe shop with your son are fading with each mintue. With a end of a movie theirs closered with death theirs not.
Nobody wants to be sick.How many times do we get sick and try to fight it.Denie that we have a simple cold.I think it comes from a fear.A deep rooted fear, that sickness is only a fall away from death. When we are sick where left vulnerable. Its one of those times that your left depending on the people close around you.Or for some the realization yourself is the only one you have. So like Eric we put are intention to somthing else.For some its work or kids or school. All to ignore the fact that somthing isnt right.
In facing your death or in being a caregiver, you encounter and handle challenges far beyond what you believe yourself capable of, far beyond common concerns.The way in which you face death leaves your special mark on the world. It empowers others to learn and grow. It create a closeness and intimacy within a cicle of family, friends, and supporters by allowing them to participate in the dying.I would like to leave by a poem by brith poet Dave Harkins:
“You can shed tears that she is gone,
or you can smile because she has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that she'll come back,
or you can open your eyes and see all she's left.
Your heart can be empty because you can't see her,
or you can be full of the love you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember her only that she is gone,
or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind,
be empty and turn your back.
Or you can do what she'd want:
smile, open your eyes, love and go on.”
2.,Denial Of being ill.
3., Being sick strips ones right of pride .
For me this insight was so true.In away I think we all wish death and illness was as easy as it is in the movies. That we still even in the end hold on to our beauty anbd essence. That are dignity isnt lost in the illness.But the truth is when we get sick theirs are no sets, no lights, nobody screaming out action. The actors cast in these roles are all to real and the emotions never end with a scene.Illness and eventual death are all to long.People can be sick like Eric for years. Never knowing that those days in a busling coffe shop with your son are fading with each mintue. With a end of a movie theirs closered with death theirs not.
Nobody wants to be sick.How many times do we get sick and try to fight it.Denie that we have a simple cold.I think it comes from a fear.A deep rooted fear, that sickness is only a fall away from death. When we are sick where left vulnerable. Its one of those times that your left depending on the people close around you.Or for some the realization yourself is the only one you have. So like Eric we put are intention to somthing else.For some its work or kids or school. All to ignore the fact that somthing isnt right.
In facing your death or in being a caregiver, you encounter and handle challenges far beyond what you believe yourself capable of, far beyond common concerns.The way in which you face death leaves your special mark on the world. It empowers others to learn and grow. It create a closeness and intimacy within a cicle of family, friends, and supporters by allowing them to participate in the dying.I would like to leave by a poem by brith poet Dave Harkins:
“You can shed tears that she is gone,
or you can smile because she has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that she'll come back,
or you can open your eyes and see all she's left.
Your heart can be empty because you can't see her,
or you can be full of the love you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember her only that she is gone,
or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind,
be empty and turn your back.
Or you can do what she'd want:
smile, open your eyes, love and go on.”
I enjoyed reading your post Matt. I thought it was very creative and insightful that you included a poem relating to your ideas. In my opinion the most insightful section of your blogpost was your connection to "movies". Movies are supposed to portray our society's reality.You stated that " I think we all wish death and illness was as easy as it is in the movies." I believe that ultimately you want to come to the conclusion that they "soften" and alter reality.
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I concor, The unique style of your essay was quite interesting. Your views on the matter of death gives a person an idea of when they die and when someone that they care for dies. You spoke the truth,that we all somehow wish for death,and it may not be as easy as they make it seem in the theaters.
ReplyDeleteThe analogy between the movies and reality was perhaps on point , the difference between what is our conscious awareness and what's created on a screen to have us feel more comfortable about the thoughts of life and death and illness are illuminated by a cast of actors as different in real life we are the characters with no scripts and I feel this was touched on when I read this.
ReplyDeleteI liked the poetic stile that you use when you write. You delivered a few points that were nicely said. When you wrote about what it is like to be on the verge of death.
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