While I don't have the pleasure of writing this from a beach I enjoyed your post very much.I liked how you made it personnel, I feel some of the deepest insights we can get is from are own life's sometimes.For me I loved when you said "My mother guessed that "he was trying to prepare himself, cope with the changes that were going to happen in his life." or maybe "he was just trying to comfort me in the changes I was dealing with" I think you were getting at something that in the mist of the birth topic is sometimes sorely missed. That not only is their a baby on the way, but a relationship that has created this life. It appears to me that the birth of a first child can either make or break a relationship. It's a testing time where both people like you pointed out our changing but also trying to be their for one another. It's weird how almost everybody goes into marriage knowing most likely they'll eventually be having a child but then when that day comes their all of a sudden like "ooo shit where having a baby". I thought you brought up a real interesting point at the end as well when you said " A plan was devised for M to before more parent equipped and then claim her baby." Ive been struggling with this idea is it right to bring a baby in this world if your not equipped, even if you accuse is it was a accident ? In my belief its not. I think in fact the problem is that where not problematizing the fact that more and more people are having children and not ready. More than 4 million babies are born in the United States each year, this number is both shocking and disturbing to me because out of that number almost 750,000 U.S. women age 15–19 become pregnant every year.And most teens I know are barely mature or cable a nove to handle themselves how could they handle a baby. This is not to highlight just teens , their are equal amounts of adults who shouldn't be having children. That's why I think your choice of wording "equipped" is right on the money. When and what makes someone equipped a nove to have a child ? . Giving life is a great power that no one has given or taken any responsibility for.Plato said "For neither birth, nor wealth, nor honors, can awaken in the minds of men the principles which should guide those who from their youth aspire to an honorable and excellent life, as Love awakens them." You had a real great post I cant wait to read more
Comment For Sharif:
In my opinion this is a really well written piece,you made some real strong and insightful insights. I thought your interview with you mom was quite interesting , espically when you discussed the "connection" your mom felt with with you as both a fetus and then newly born child. I think this connection with a mother and newborn is something special. It's something hard to miss,but the idea that it occurs even before actual birth is amazing. How the baby and mother are one in the same.Makes me think of a quote "I don’t know whether they should say “You have a baby” Or “The baby has you”." Nice job can't wait to read more.
Joshua ,My Brother:
What I liked about this was the dealtailed way this was wrote. Explaining about the cesections or C-sec for short that some wemon go through when they think they can't get the baby is amazing. This story really's give a person or at least me an understanding of how hard,and painful birth is. But what this story also incorparates is even through all that pain,the end results of this process is worth it. So that's why I have to say nice job.
Jennifer ,My Mom:
It's wonderful you have insight into the birthing process. However I wish you could have expounded on the mental transition that goes on during the process of being pregnant for nine months. The joy and fear, anxiety of another individual living inside of you, the miracle and the questioning of that miracle and it's effects on
the family compostion changing for partners or as a single women ,instead I felt as though I moved right through to some form of the birthing, and believe me their is a middle between giving birth that is as life changing as the finality. The mere conception of another person is created sometimes through preplanned wants or sometimes mistakes or mistiming, however once this life takes on its first ultrasound of a heartbeat the changes begin and the thought processes grows no longer as you the mother a solo entity in this world but has the new caretaker of another.
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